How to Deal with the Death of a Loved One


Published: 03/15/2011

by Funeral Home Resource


"When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure."

In life, one is faced with many challenges and burdens that may seem almost too difficult to bear. Perhaps the greatest of these is the death of a loved one. When a loved one passes away, there are many challenges to deal with in the process of mourning including organizing a funeral, publishing an obituary and the process of coping with death itself.

Planning a funeral is not an easy task for anyone and unfortunately, they can be quite costly. There are several organizations that help out families who need assistance in paying for a funeral. The Department of Veterans Affairs organizes funerals if the deceased is a veteran and the Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA) assists in the death arrangement where the death occurred by way of a natural disaster. When planning a funeral, the first thing to do is contact a funeral director who will begin the arrangements for burial preparation. Next, meet with the funeral director to discuss the specifics about the funeral ceremony. It is important to remember the true spirit and personality of the deceased. Not all poems, songs, speeches or flowers are right for the same person. Try to pick out things that are meaningful and that you feel capture his or her spirit. Remembering a loved one is special, so try to put as much thought and meaning into it as possible.

Next, consider publishing an obituary. This is an article in a local newspaper which makes a formal death announcement and statement about the deceased. Some people may already have made a list of things they want put in their obituary before they passed away, but if not, there are certain things you want to include, such as their name, where they were born, who their family was and what profession and accomplishments they had in life. Other information to include is details about the funeral service and a statement which you feel best sums up the deceased's life or personality. If you feel you are having trouble finding the right words to say in the obituary, contact the funeral director for further assistance.

Finally, it is important to allow yourself to grieve over your loved one. Losing someone you care about is difficult, but remember the positive things and try to look towards the future with optimism. Surround yourself with people who love you and can help you in the process of grieving. Dealing with death is a painful challenge to overcome, but coping with it effectively will in time heal your wounds.